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I love food, so the rare activity that makes me forget to eat is special.

I love food, so the rare activity that makes me forget to eat is special.

I love this article. I’ve been kicking around “life purpose” since I started this blog. What my life purpose, I’d wonder late at night. And now to have life purpose reframed as “what can I do that is important?” is relieving.

I also was inspired by the question “what makes you forget to eat and poop?”. Passion has been hard to define, but the times when I got in the zone, those are easier to identify. Probably because I come out of it really needing to use the bathroom and simultaneously very hungry.

Check out all 7 insightful and playful questions at http://markmanson.net/life-purpose/

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In case I haven’t already shared, I struggled a lot with should (also, have to, need to, must). It’s a weighty word, filled with obligation and laced with shame. It also used to be one of the most common words in my vocabulary, especially in my self-talk.

Now I experience a much brighter, lighter, and more fulfilling experience. And, all I did was switch should to want to. “I should brush my teeth” became “I want to brush my teeth”. And if “I want to brush my teeth” wasn’t true, then I didn’t do it in that moment. (For the record I almost always want to brush my teeth twice a day.)

Something about "having to" do something causes all kinds of problems.

Something about “having to” do something causes all kinds of problems.

For another perspective on this, specifically related to recent grads looking for career direction, check out this blog post:

http://charliehoehn.com/2014/09/09/how-to-create-your-career-using-the-skill-bridge-technique-to-land-great-work/

I’m an awkward party goer. I don’t know if I come across that way, but I certainly feel that way. And then when I have to introduce friends who don’t know each other, forget it. Sound familiar?

That’s why I’m grateful for this article:

Let’s stop introducing the people we love based solely on what they do, who they cash their checks from, or what’s on their twitter profiles. Let’s instead start reminding them of who they are. Let’s start conversations that don’t begin and end with who has the most interesting job in the room

Basically, ditch the “This is Bob, and he works in accounting.” Instead how about “This is Sean, and he’s one of my most loyal friends and gives great gifts”?

Yay party! No don't make me talk to anyone...

Yay party! No don’t make me talk to anyone…

Read the whole (short) article at http://storylineblog.com/2014/08/12/a-better-way-to-introduce-your-friends-at-parties/

How do I find meaning in my life? I’ve asked this question a lot. My default answer is to eat chocolate. Or play Mass Effect 2. And then came the brilliant idea to do both, at the same time. 

No, not literally (though I do often snack while playing). Watching this video from Marie Forleo, I realized it was time to create a personal quest. 

 

So what’s my quest? Explore the City of San Diego by eating in each neighborhood at least once within a year. If you’re interested to follow my progress, check out San Diego by Food (my new blog specifically for this project). 

 

Links:

The Secret To More Meaning & Adventure w/ Chris Guillebeau

http://sandiegobyfood.blogspot.com/

There’s a lot said on happiness. Much of it has little basis or testing. Luckily, TIME compiled 10 scientifically tested ways to enrich happiness. 

My favorite?

2. Keep your happy friends close, geographically

Having a mutual friend (one who thinks you’re a friend too) within a mile increases happiness 148%! Maybe that’s why living in the dorms is so fun and why moving to a new city can be so isolating. Anyone ready to be my neighbor? 🙂

 

Fun times in the dorms

Fun times in the dorms

Check out all 10 ways to happiness here.

 

The 10 Most Unexpected Ways to Be Happy, Backed By Science