Article: Change “have to” to “want to”

In case I haven’t already shared, I struggled a lot with should (also, have to, need to, must). It’s a weighty word, filled with obligation and laced with shame. It also used to be one of the most common words in my vocabulary, especially in my self-talk.

Now I experience a much brighter, lighter, and more fulfilling experience. And, all I did was switch should to want to. “I should brush my teeth” became “I want to brush my teeth”. And if “I want to brush my teeth” wasn’t true, then I didn’t do it in that moment. (For the record I almost always want to brush my teeth twice a day.)

Something about "having to" do something causes all kinds of problems.

Something about “having to” do something causes all kinds of problems.

For another perspective on this, specifically related to recent grads looking for career direction, check out this blog post:

http://charliehoehn.com/2014/09/09/how-to-create-your-career-using-the-skill-bridge-technique-to-land-great-work/

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