In case I haven’t already shared, I struggled a lot with should (also, have to, need to, must). It’s a weighty word, filled with obligation and laced with shame. It also used to be one of the most common words in my vocabulary, especially in my self-talk.
Now I experience a much brighter, lighter, and more fulfilling experience. And, all I did was switch should to want to. “I should brush my teeth” became “I want to brush my teeth”. And if “I want to brush my teeth” wasn’t true, then I didn’t do it in that moment. (For the record I almost always want to brush my teeth twice a day.)
For another perspective on this, specifically related to recent grads looking for career direction, check out this blog post: