History will demand to know

“Now is a time when none of us can afford to remain seated or silent. We must all stand up to be counted.

HIstory will demand to know which side were you on. This is not a question of politics or party or even policy. This is a question about the very fundamentals of our beautiful experiment in a pluralistic democracy ruled by law.

When I see neo-Nazis raise their hands in terrifying solute, in public, in our nation’s capital, I shudder in horror…

We are a great nation. We have survived deep challenges in our past. We can and will do so again. But we cannot be afraid to speak and act to ensure the future we want for our children and grandchildren.”


-Dan Rather, on Facebook regarding the recent neo-Nazi convention in D.C.


Let us be clear

“Let us all be clear: “National security” must never again be permitted to justify wholesale denial of constitutional rights and protections. If it is freedom and our way of life that we fight for, our first obligation is to ensure that our own government adheres to those principles. Without that, we are no better than our enemies.”

-George Takei, in the Washington Post on historical internment of Japanese Americans and the treatment of American Muslims today


How to Speak Up to Bigotry

A brief highlight from “Speak Up: Responding to Everyday Bigotry” from The Southern Poverty Law Center.


Honor the past. If such behavior wasn’t accepted in your growing-up years, remind your sibling of your shared past: “I remember when we were kids, Mom went out of her way to make sure we embraced differences. I’m not sure when or why that changed for you, but it hasn’t changed for me.”

Change the present. If bigoted behavior was accepted in your childhood home, explain to your siblings that you’ve changed: “I know when we were growing up that we all used to tell ‘jokes’ about Jews. As an adult, though, I advocate respect for others.”

Appeal to family ties. “I value our relationship so much, and we’ve always been so close. Those anti-Semitic remarks are putting a lot of distance between us, and I don’t want to feel distanced from you.”



Talking with Loved Ones about Trump

As I prepare to talk with and listen to loved ones over the holidays, I found this guide helpful in discussing Trump’s presidency.

A general summary of “How to talk to your loved ones about a Donald Trump presidency”

  • Take care of yourself first.
  • Take the long view of your relationship.
  • Meet them where they are and listen.
  • Engage their interests, not their positions. Interests are things like “health care is important.” Positions are things like “Obamacare is [good/bad].” If your positions aren’t aligned (and they probably aren’t!) you end at “well I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree.” If you can engage on the level of interests, you can build a frame to talk about positions in the future.”
  • Feelings and stories, not facts. You’re probably operating from a different set of facts than your loved one. Fighting them about the details of what they’re wrong about is unlikely to actually change their minds. Talk about how you feel (“I’m scared of losing my health care because I have a chronic condition”) and stories from your friends (“My Muslim friends have seen a huge uptick in hate speech since the election”) instead of getting into an academic discourse.”
  • Give them space.


Listening to people we disagree with

It’s time for kindness and empathy for all, including–especially–those who we disagree with.

“Telling people they’re racist, sexist, and xenophobic is going to get you exactly nowhere,” said Alana Conner, executive director of Stanford University’s Social Psychological Answers to Real-World Questions Center. “It’s such a threatening message. One of the things we know from social psychology is when people feel threatened, they can’t change, they can’t listen.”

Except from “Research says there are ways to reduce racial bias. Calling people racist isn’t one of them.


A note on the election

Things I accept:

Both people who voted for Hillary and voted for Trump did so because it is what they saw as best for themselves and this country.

Half of eligible voters didn’t vote.

Hillary Clinton won the popular vote, with over 60,000,000 votes.

Donald Trump won the electoral college and is now President-Elect.

Donald Trump is promising reforms, political and economic, many of which are outside business-as-usual, and that gives millions of Americans hope that our broken system will be quickly fixed by President Trump.

Things I do not accept:

Committing or bragging about sexual assault.

Attacking immigrants.

Mocking the disabled.

Denigrating people based on race or ancestry.

Penalizing journalists for dissent.

Criticizing women for their appearance.

Praising dictators.

Vilifying religion.


I accept that our President-Elect is Donald Trump. I do not accept an America of walls, hatred, vengeance, or violence.